Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled and Independent by Judy Ford

Author:Judy Ford [Ford, Judy]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: book, ebook
ISBN: 9781593371548
Amazon: 1593371543
Publisher: Adams Media
Published: 2004-09-02T00:00:00+00:00

Coming to grips with one’s own childlike wish to have whatever we want without working or saving is required for mature independence. We have to give up our sense of entitlement.

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1. Congratulations! If you’re working, supporting yourself, and managing your money, please don’t take this achievement for granted. Congratulations are in order. It’s not easy, it’s not always fun, and you’re doing it.

2. Start a financial planning group for singles only. Call it “Sex and Money,” and you’ll probably attract lots of members.

3. Examine your attitude toward money. Is that childlike wish to have someone take care of you getting in the way of becoming financially responsible? Is the adolescent impulse to have what everyone else has causing you trouble?

4. Carry your own jingle. (Credit cards don’t jingle.) Don’t buy it unless you really love it. Go without until you can treat yourself by paying right up front.

5. Get acquainted with the evening. Take a second job, and work the late shift. You’ll be so exhausted that you’ll be able to fall asleep standing up and won’t have time to spend money.

“ Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons.”

—WOODY ALLEN

Humor Your Parents

When forty-six-year-old Leila broke up with Alec and he moved out, it left her living alone in the apartment they once shared. “You’re not going to stay there?” her mother pleaded in a tone that let Leila know she didn’t approve. “But there’s no doorman in the building. Why don’t you look up Todd? His mother told me that he lives less than a mile away in a very secure building.” Which translated, means Mom wants daughter married and safe.

When eighty-six-year-old Olga moved in with her sixty-seven-year-old bachelorette daughter Mildred, it was one question after another: “You’re staying out until 11:00 on a weeknight?” “Do you think it’s proper to be seen with Fred so soon after his wife died?” “What are Fred’s intentions?” “Mom, I’m sixty-seven,” Mildred reminded her. “That is beside the point,” Olga scolded.

Twenty-four-year-old Abigail, out of her five-year relationship for only five months, gets asked weekly by her anxious and slightly neurotic mother, “When do you think you’ll get married again?”

It’s the same for my fifty-two-year-old friend Anthony. He’s never been married, although he’s never lacked for female companionship— he prefers the single life. His motto is “Laugh and the world laughs with you, get married and you’ll sleep alone.” His mother doesn’t think that’s funny. She doesn’t like him “sleeping around.” She wants him safely married. She wants grandchildren. She wants him respectable and settled down before she dies. “That’s the good thing about gray hair,” Anthony told me. “My mother stopped fixing me up a couple of years ago, now she just rolls her eyes and sighs.”

Aren’t these mothers silly? But it’s not just mothers. Brooke’s father cross-examines any guy she brings around. He wants to make sure the guy comes from a respectable family, that his intentions are honorable, and that he has a good head on his shoulders.

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